Honor Thy Father: A Muslim man in Phoenix "honor killed" his Americanized daughter

Editor's note: The writer obtained unreleased police records for this story. The narrative also is based on interviews, court documents and Internet comments.

Noor Almaleki typed a text message to a friend.

"Dude," she wrote at 1:06 p.m. last October 20, "my dad is here at the welfare office."

Noor Almaleki was a twenty-year-old college student who had dreams of becoming a fashion model.
Noor Almaleki was a twenty-year-old college student who had dreams of becoming a fashion model.
Accused murderer Faleh Almaleki in a police mugshot taken after his arrest last October.
Accused murderer Faleh Almaleki in a police mugshot taken after his arrest last October.
Noor's brother Ali blamed his father's attack on "different cultures, different values."
courtesy KPHO Channel 5
Noor's brother Ali blamed his father's attack on "different cultures, different values."
The parking lot at the Arizona Department of Economic Security, where Falah Almaleki ran over his daughter and Amal Khalaf.
Michael Ratcliff
The parking lot at the Arizona Department of Economic Security, where Falah Almaleki ran over his daughter and Amal Khalaf.
Noor (left) with her friend, ASU student Sana Ameen.
courtesy of Sana Ameen
Noor (left) with her friend, ASU student Sana Ameen.
The Almaleki children, circa 2005 (Noor is standing second from left.)
The Almaleki children, circa 2005 (Noor is standing second from left.)
Noor Almaleki with friends at her 20th and final birthday party.
Noor Almaleki with friends at her 20th and final birthday party.

Noor, age twenty, hadn't seen her father, Faleh, since she moved out of the family home in Glendale, Arizona, a city about nine miles outside of Phoenix, months earlier.

But his presence both startled and alarmed her. She knew he wouldn't rest until he'd regained complete control of her life.

Noor was the first-born of Faleh and Seham Almaleki's seven children. Her first name means "light of God." The Almalekis had moved to the United States from Iraq when Noor was four.

Noor was thoroughly assimilated into American culture but kept in touch with her Iraqi roots (she was fluent in Arabic) and considered herself a Muslim, the same religion as her parents. But she had moved away from her parents in early 2009 (not for the first time) after another blowup over how she was living her life — tight jeans, makeup, boyfriends, modeling photos and an attitude that screamed independence and self-determination.

The clashes escalated in 2008 after Noor, who was eighteen at the time, left her marriage to an older cousin in Iraq — her father had "arranged" it — and returned to the Phoenix area.

Noor sent her text message from inside an Arizona Department of Economic Security office. Seated next to her was Amal Edan Khalaf, her boyfriend's 43-year-old mother.

Amal was there to complete a change-of-address form for welfare benefits. She too is Iraqi by birth, but moved to the States only about a decade ago, and her proficiency in English was such that Noor came along to help translate.

Noor had lived at Amal's residence since leaving her parents' home after the latest fracas.

It was bad enough that she was living with Amal, whom Faleh and his wife, Seham, had known for years and considered unfit as a mother and wife (she was separated from her husband at the time).

Noor's boyfriend and Amal's son, nineteen-year-old Marwan Alebadi, also lived there, and the Almalekis — particularly Noor's father — were enraged and shamed by the situation.

From their perspective, a man's daughters are his property, and they are supposed to live with him until he decides otherwise.

Females who stray from the fold — or are perceived to have strayed — are considered guilty of dishonoring their clans. To an Iraqi there's nothing worse.

The alleged wrongdoing often revolves around sexual "immorality," but not always.

Riffat Hassan, a retired University of Louisville professor and expert on the Koran, says, "Muslim culture has reduced many, if not most, women to the position of puppets on a string, to slavelike creatures whose only purpose in life is to cater to the needs and pleasures of men."

The Almalekis were proud members of that "Muslim culture."

By moving in with Marwan and Amal, Noor Almaleki had made it clear that she would not be her father's puppet, his "slavelike" creature.

She was determined to live how — and with whom — she wished.

Some cultures, including the Almalekis', endorse ancient methods of "cleansing" a family's supposedly tarnished name — with the blood of its daughters, sisters and wives.

In India, Hindu and Sikh brides are sometimes slain because their dowries are considered inadequate, the United Nations Children's Fund reports.

In Islamic Middle Eastern countries, there's a name for the homicides of women by male family members: "honor killings."

These murders of loved ones are as personal as it gets, usually committed with knives, machetes or bare hands.

Victims have been tied up and buried alive. The father and grandfather of a sixteen-year-old Islamic girl in Turkey did just that a few months ago, after someone reported seeing the girl talking with boys.

No one can say exactly how many "honor killings" occur, but anecdotal evidence (from news accounts and government data) suggests that hundreds of Muslim women and girls die this way every year.

According to a 2006 statement by a U.N. news agency, 47 women died in "honor killings" in 2006 in Basra, Iraq, seaport city of about 4 million people, and Faleh Almaleki's hometown.

Such killings by Muslim immigrant men are reported in Western nations as well: Five were accused of murdering female kin in the United States between the start of 2008 and October 20, 2009.

That was the day Faleh Almaleki, an unemployed 48-year-old trucker with no criminal record, took a terrible step toward adding himself to that list of accused "honor" murderers.


Noor sent a second text message after her father stepped into the DES office, this one to her best friend, Ushna.

"Dude, I'm so scared. Shit," she wrote. "At the welfare place, and guess who walks in? My dad!!! I'm so shaky!"

"Holy shit, did he see you?" Ushna quickly responded.

"I don't think so," Noor typed. "His fat ass is right by the door so I can't even leave. I'm laughing like a crazy person. I hate when this happens to me. I knew I shouldn't have [woken] up."

"Oh, dear, that's awkward," Ushna said. "What's up with your parents, anyway?"

"My dad is a manipulative asshole," Noor replied. "I've honestly never met anyone...so evil."

Amal Khalaf watched as Faleh took a number at the counter and then sat near her and Noor.

Faleh was on his own cell phone around the time that his daughter was texting. He spent five minutes speaking with his oldest son, Ali, eighteen months younger than Noor.

Faleh also spoke with a male relative in Detroit, Michigan, and several times with his wife, Seham, who was working as a translator at a U.S. military base in California.

Minutes after he arrived, Faleh left the DES office without comment.

At 1:32 p.m. Noor sent a final text to Ushna in which she seemed more relaxed.

"What time do you get out of work?" Noor asked her friend. "Are you going to have time [to meet]?"

Amal's number finally got called, and she and Noor stepped up to a counter to take care of business. That took several minutes.

Amal had parked her van near the front door, in a crowded lot the DES shares with a popular Mexican restaurant about 100 yards west.

But Amal remained wary of Faleh. She knew how angry he was with her for allowing his daughter to move into her home.

Their families once had been friendly, in Iraq and then in the States. Amal Khalaf had baby-sat the Almalekis' young children when Seham was working.

But any good feelings evaporated after Noor moved in with Marwan and Amal.

Amal wanted to scope out the parking lot for Faleh and his 2000 silver-gray Jeep Cherokee before leaving the DES office with Noor.

Noor didn't seem as worried.

She said her dad might spit on her if he had the chance — nothing more.

The coast looked clear, so they headed for Amal's van. But Amal soon discovered that she had locked her keys inside the vehicle.

She and Noor retreated to the DES office to regroup. Amal called her son and asked him to bring by a spare key from home, about twenty minutes away.

It was a sunny, 85-degree day, and Amal wanted to wait just outside the front door of the DES office.

But Noor was thirsty. She suggested they go to the nearby Mexican restaurant for a cold drink. The pair walked west along the sidewalk next to the office and started across the lot.

Seemingly out of nowhere, Amal saw a vehicle coming right at them. She lifted her hands in defense, as if to stop the inevitable.

In that moment, she could see Faleh Almaleki behind the wheel.

The Jeep smashed into the women.

It dragged Noor across a curbed median and left her splayed on the pavement, unconscious and bleeding.

The impact hurled Amal Khalaf about 27 feet. She suffered a broken pelvis, broken femur and myriad cuts and bruises, but she remained conscious.

Police later estimated that the SUV was moving as fast as 30 miles per hour.

Faleh sped out of the parking lot.

Noor was barely alive, having suffered massive brain and spinal injuries, as well as innumerable broken bones.

Amal quickly provided police with a motive. She said the Almalekis were furious with both her and Noor for the current living arrangement.

Amal explained that Faleh had been hell-bent on showing her and his daughter who was boss, who was in control.

Within minutes of Faleh's fleeing the bloody scene, he spoke by cell phone to his wife, to their son Ali and to at least two other members of his extended family.

Cell-tower records show that he called his cousin, Jamil Almaleki, less than an hour after the assaults, about half a mile from Jamil's Phoenix home.

It's uncertain whether Faleh stopped there on his way out of town, to get the clothes and money he was later captured with.

Another possibility is that Faleh packed the clothes and money, days' worth of insulin to treat his diabetes and his U.S. passport (he had recently become a naturalized citizen) before driving to the DES office — which would indicate a planned attack.

Whether Faleh assaulted the women on the spur of the moment or premeditated his action, he had time to reflect on what he would do after encountering Noor and Amal in the DES office: run over two defenseless women, one of whom was his first-born child.


Three police detectives from the Phoenix suburb of Peoria went to the Almaleki residence at 5 p.m. on October 20, about three hours after the assaults.

Noor's brother, Ali, opened the front door. He was in a tough spot.

Ali once had been close to his sister.

His written praise accompanies a photo of the siblings in Noor's senior high school yearbook:

"I admire that my sister is always there for me. I'm always able to talk to her no matter what. She'll always be there for me to listen to and give me a shoulder to lean on."

But the feud between Noor and their parents had taken its toll, and the siblings hadn't spoken in weeks. (Ali later told friends in an e-mail that he had taken to calling his sister vile names before they stopped speaking.)

Ali told detective Juan Lopez that he hadn't been in touch with his father since midmorning, when they had gone to a Best Buy electronics store together. He insisted that he didn't want to get involved in whatever was going on.

But it was too late for that.

Ali already was involved.

He told detective Chris Boughey that things at the house had been increasingly strained since Noor had returned from Iraq after leaving her arranged marriage.

To Ali's way of thinking, doing that had dishonored the Almaleki family.

Ali said Noor had been "most disrespectful" to their parents (to him, too) since her return and had continued to reject "traditional" Iraqi values.

The young man mentioned his own problems with his father, whom he described as a chronic gambler who liked to frequent Phoenix-area casinos.

Ali's mother, Seham, had been calling him over the past few hours, he said, saying that something had happened to Noor.

But Ali swore to detectives that he didn't know what had happened to his sister.

Detective Boughey returned to his car after the interview but didn't immediately leave. Ali came out a few minutes later and told Boughey he wanted to add some details to his account. This time he said he had spoken with his father at 2:30 p.m. (about half an hour after the assaults), but he couldn't recall the substance of the conversation.

Ali let on that he had seen television coverage and wanted to know where Noor was hospitalized. The detective said he couldn't tell him that right away.

Faleh Almaleki crossed the Mexican border into Nogales, Sonora, about the same time that Ali was being questioned in Glendale. Faleh soon parked his Jeep in a mall parking lot and checked into a hotel.

At 5:30 p.m. he made a call to his Phoenix cousin, Jamil.

The next day, October 21, Peoria police issued a warrant for Faleh Almaleki's arrest, alleging (at that point) two counts of aggravated assault.

That day a detective contacted Noor's mother by phone. Seham Almaleki said she was driving back from her job in California. She claimed all she knew was that there was a family problem of an unspecified nature.

Detective Bill Laing told Seham that her husband had intentionally slammed into Noor and Amal with his Jeep and fled.

"This woman is a liar. This woman is dirty. Her family is dirty," Seham told Laing, referring to Amal Khalaf. She said repeatedly that she hadn't communicated with her husband about the incident.

Laing told Seham that Noor's condition was grave. She replied that she wanted to see her daughter as soon as possible.

But the detective said he was concerned that Seham and others might pose further danger to Noor.

"I'm a danger?" Seham shouted.

Ironically, given the circumstances, she continued, "I'm a Muslim. We can't kill our daughter."

On October 22, two days after the assaults, a Glendale pharmacist told police that someone had phoned in a prescription for Faleh Almaleki.

That evening members of Noor's family (including her mother) and many of her friends held a candlelight vigil at the site of the assault. The media were there to capture the moment. The case was generating more buzz with each passing day.


Faleh Almaleki remained a fugitive as his daughter, comatose and unresponsive, clung to life.

Noor's photos, many of them lifted from her Facebook and MySpace pages, were displayed on sites across the Internet. They showed a beautiful young woman with long black hair and a wistful expression.

Noor rarely smiled in the photos, possibly because of embarrassment over braces she had worn for a while. But her friends say she was naturally upbeat, blessed with a sassy sense of humor that she employed even when times were tough.

"Noor, Noor, Noor. How can I describe Noor?" says one female pal who spent hours on end chatting with her at a coffee shop near Glendale Community College, where Noor was a part-time student.

"She was a trusting, loyal person who would calm everyone around her. She was an angel. Like a lot of us [Muslim women], she could be private, but she told me that her dad didn't understand her.

"We have to respect our parents, but she said he wanted her to be this perfect Arab woman, not questioning or demanding anything — 'Whatever you say, Father'— and that just wasn't her."

On October 24, Ali Almaleki spoke with a television reporter about his sister.

He said she had been "going out of her way being disrespectful [to their parents]."

Ali continued, "The boy [Marwan Alebadi] that is supposedly her boyfriend now — I don't like him."

He contrasted Iraq and the United States, saying, "Different cultures, different values. One thing to one culture does not make sense to another culture."

But he noted that seeing Noor at the hospital "just broke my heart. Nobody should have to go through that."

Ali said his father had called home the previous day to ask about Noor's condition, but "my mom yelled at him and hung up."

That day Peoria detectives learned that on October 22 a young man, possibly of Middle Eastern descent, and a woman wearing a veil had picked up a prescription for diabetes in Faleh's name.

Detectives returned to the Almaleki home on October 26 for a follow-up interview with Ali and his mother, Seham. By now the detectives had examined phone records, which showed that Faleh had been in touch with his immediate family and others around the time of the assaults.

Seham admitted that she had lied in her earlier interview with police, but she continued to deny knowing her husband's whereabouts.

Mother and son also admitted they had picked up the medicine at the pharmacy. But Seham insisted she had thrown the pill bottles out of her car window, though she couldn't come up with a reason for having done so. Seham again blamed onetime friend Amal Khalaf for what had happened in the DES office parking lot.

Amal got what was coming to her, Seham spewed, because she is the matriarch of a family supposedly flush with drug abusers and thieves. By contrast, Seham told the detectives, "We have a good family."

Ali told her, "No, Mom. We don't."

Later that evening Ali Almaleki met with detective Boughey alone at a restaurant.

Out of his mother's presence, he provided new details of his father's call to him before the assaults. Faleh had just seen Noor and Amal at the DES office. He said his father sounded angry, so he told Faleh to go home. But Ali said Faleh phoned later to say he had run down Noor and Amal with his car.

During the conversation Faleh told Ali to "man up," because he wouldn't be around anymore.


On October 27, British Customs officials informed U.S. immigration authorities that Faleh Almaleki was in custody in London. He had arrived on a plane from Mexico City using his own name and his U.S. passport. A computer check showed that Faleh was a wanted man in Arizona.

British Customs put Faleh on a Delta flight to Atlanta, Georgia, where the feds have a port of entry for incoming fugitives.

On October 28, Mexican authorities in Nogales contacted Peoria police. They had found Faleh's Jeep — the missing weapon — in a mall parking lot. Crime-scene investigators later found hair, fiber and human tissue on the vehicle.

On October 29, Peoria detectives Chris Boughey and Jeff Balson sat across from their suspect in Atlanta.

Faleh Almaleki waived his Miranda rights against self-incrimination, which meant the detectives could question him.

At first Faleh told them he had run over the two women in a freakish accident after coincidentally finding them at the DES office.

"If I want to try to kill my daughter, why would I kill my daughter with vehicle?" he asked, trying to sound reasonable. "I have no problem with my daughter; this is not the first time she left the house.... If I want to kill her, I go buy a gun. I know where they live. I just lost control [of the car]."

Detective Boughey asked him whether he had been trying to scare the women.

"Might be something like this," Faleh claimed, "but I don't try to kill them."

The detectives picked away at the murky account.

"I've been angry," Faleh replied, "and I lost control. I lost the brain."

But he continued to insist that he had not premeditated his actions.

Like his wife, Faleh faulted Amal Khalaf for having "stolen" their twenty-year-old daughter from them.

He insisted that he loved Noor, noting that his cell phone contained several photos of her. But as if it were a self-evident truth, Faleh said his daughter should not have become so "Americanized" — that it was wrong.

Faleh said he had stayed at the Nogales hotel for two nights, during which time a "stranger" gave him about $1,900 in cash for his Jeep and agreed to make sure some "paperwork" got to Ali.

Though unconfirmed, a far more likely scenario is that Faleh's cousin, Jamil Almaleki, or someone else close to the Almalekis delivered the money, diabetes medicine and clothes that Faleh had with him when British authorities collared him.

Jamil Almaleki could not be contacted for this story, and police reports suggest that he may have returned to Iraq.

Faleh said that while he was in Mexico he hopped a bus from Nogales to Hermosillo, and then flew to Mexico City. Within a day he boarded a Mexicana Airlines flight to London, where his desperate flight from the DES parking lot abruptly ended.

Detective Boughey asked Faleh whether his family was on his side. Perhaps, the detective said, his attack had restored some of the "honor" supposedly lost by Noor's lifestyle choices.

Faleh didn't reply directly, saying he would certainly help a friend or family member in a similar predicament.

"It's our culture," he explained.

Faleh asked the detective what he would do if he had such a disobedient daughter.

Boughey responded that he would not crush his daughter with a car. He soon asked Faleh again whether he had meant to hurt the women.

Yes, Faleh Almaleki finally confessed, he had.

"If your house has got a fire [in] just part of the house," he said, "do we let the house burn or [do] we try to stop the fire?"

Faleh then admitted that his daughter Noor was the "small fire" he had to extinguish.

He was booked into Georgia's Clayton County Jail and waived extradition. On October 31, the Peoria detectives escorted him back to Arizona on a commercial airline.

At Faleh's initial appearance in Phoenix later that day, a judge set his bail at $5 million.


Doctors at John C. Lincoln North Mountain Hospital pronounced Noor Almaleki clinically brain dead at 7 a.m. on November 2, 2009.

Her family decided to take her off of life support. Several of Noor's relatives — including her mother and brother — were by her bedside when her heart stopped beating at 11:54 a.m.

Police noted at Noor's autopsy that her eyes, so hauntingly beautiful in photographs, were swollen shut.

Days later in Arizona, a Maricopa County grand jury indicted Faleh on charges of first-degree murder, attempted first-degree murder, aggravated assault and leaving the scene of an accident.

Noor's violent death struck a nerve worldwide, especially after a county prosecutor officially attached the phrase "honor killing" to it.

To some she would become a symbol of the ills said to infect Muslim culture, ills that would allow a father to slaughter a daughter with the blessing of at least some family members.

The sad case captured the attention of Rana Husseini, an expert on "honor killings." A reporter for the English-language Jordan Times and author of Murder in the Name of Honor, Husseini has written about dozens of such crimes in her homeland.

"I wish that poor girl had been able to stay safe, maybe in a shelter or something," Husseini says. "It's such a waste of a life."

In Jordan and elsewhere in the Middle East, men who commit such killings often receive lax punishment — sometimes only getting sentenced to months, if that, behind bars.

Faleh Almaleki's fatal attack on his daughter fit the pattern of a typical "honor" crime in the Middle East. The differences are that Faleh used a vehicle instead of a knife or machete and that, if convicted, he will probably spend the rest of his life in prison. ( The county attorney's office is not seeking the death penalty.)

Someone created a Facebook page within a few days of Noor's death: R.I.P Noor Faleh Almaleki. Its home page asked that Noor and "all other victims of senseless honor killings rest in peace. And may God be the guardian of others in danger of sharing that fate. And may we all do something to end honor killings once and for all."

On the "wall" that is part of the page, more than 3,000 people have written about Noor, her tragic death and Muslim culture.

A typical entry, written by an eighteen-year-old girl from Maine, says, "I can tell she was a good girl, and when she finally realized she couldn't live her life under another person's decision, she left! I respect her so much for that.

"She is going to live her life in Heaven like she didn't get to live it here on Earth."

Another of those commenting was her brother Ali, who wrote, "What grabs the most attention from this situation is the fact that this is a Middle Eastern family.

"The media has drawn this image that Noor, RIP, was a saint and my dad was the Devil."

Ali said he wasn't "advocating" what his father did, but he insisted that the slaying was unplanned.

"You guys [in the media] be careful what you say," he wrote. "That's my father you're talking about. And my father is a loving man. He loved Noor. That may raise eyebrows, and you guys [may ask], 'Why would he do this if he loved her?'"

Ali's conclusion: "He lost his mind."

Referring to Noor, he wrote, "Nobody deserves this, and this never should have happened. And nobody will ever understand the kind of pain my family is enduring."


Noor Almaleki's life never was the same after she rebelled against her parents and their culture and left her arranged marriage.

She tried on and off over the final eighteen months of her life to live with her family, but it didn't work. Faleh and Seham considered her tainted, someone who had humiliated them by leaving the Iraqi husband her father had chosen for her.

Faleh had gotten wildly angry when, after Noor's return from Iraq, he found a seemingly innocent snapshot of her and a few male friends. In his mind, Noor shouldn't have been chummy with men other than her husband, to whom she remained legally married.

But Noor stood up for herself. She posted a free page on exploretalent.com, a website that showcases aspiring models, actors, musicians and dancers.

The photographs on Noor's page were not racy, just photos of a young woman with a uniquely beautiful face. Noor never paid the $30 monthly fee to find out whether anyone was interested in her "look" for possible modeling assignments.

Noor found work as a server at an Applebee's restaurant, where she made new friends. One of her coworkers, Nicole Ferugia, recalls that Noor quit after her father learned that she was employed at an establishment that serves liquor.

In summer 2008, Noor moved in with a girlfriend's family for a time. That July Faleh asked Glendale police to charge his daughter with felony auto theft after she took his car early one morning (not the Jeep) and got into a minor accident.

Faleh tried to make a deal with her: If she returned home and straightened herself out, he would ask authorities to drop the case against her.

But Noor wouldn't agree to that and wound up facing a serious charge that remained unresolved at the time of her death.

Things continued to deteriorate inside the Almaleki family.

In March 2009, Seham Almaleki won an order of protection against Noor in Glendale City Court. In her petition Seham claimed Noor had come home and hit her on one occasion and had cursed her at the family home on another.

Noor did not contest the order, which barred her from the Almaleki residence and from contacting her siblings at their schools.

By this time, she had moved in with her new boyfriend, Marwan, and his mother. To the Almalekis, that was akin to a declaration of war by Noor, Amal Khalaf and her son.

On July 20, Faleh and Seham broke into Amal's home late at night in an attempt to corral their daughter.

Glendale police reports say Noor and Marwan weren't home at the time. But Seham banged on Amal's locked bedroom door and challenged her to come out and fight. Amal apparently hid until police arrived in response to a 911 call made by one of Amal's young daughters.

Amal declined to pursue criminal charges against the Almalekis.

Some of Faleh and Seham's concerns about their daughter's living arrangement may have been justified.

Last August 6, Glendale police arrested Marwan Alebadi on charges of assaulting Noor, allegedly as she tried to break up his fight with an unnamed third party at Amal's home.

Marwan was accused of breaking and lacerating Noor's nose during the clash, which he denied to police. The domestic-violence charge was pending when Noor died.

At home recovering from her injuries, Amal Khalaf told Peoria police in December that she had taken Noor in because the young woman had nowhere else to go after leaving her parents' house. Giving Noor shelter, not facilitating Noor's romantic relationship with her son, had been her sole concern, Amal stressed.

She said she knew how much Noor missed her younger siblings and that Noor would talk with her sixteen-year-old sister, Fatima, without her parents' knowledge.

Just days before the assaults, Amal said, she had persuaded Noor to reach out to her parents, in an effort to at least get a dialogue going.

Noor spoke with her mother by phone, but Amal said it didn't go well. She reported that Noor told her Seham had declared, "Amal is your mom; I'm not your mom."


In the weeks after his arrest and subsequent incarceration at the Maricopa County Jail, Faleh Almaleki spoke often by phone with family members. Authorities secretly taped every word.

"How is she now?" Faleh asked cousin Jamil during one conversation, which police later had translated into English. (Faleh and his family spoke in Arabic during their jail conversations.)

"Who's she?" Jamil asked.

"Noor," Faleh said.

"Noor died, brother," Jamil said.

"What?" Faleh asked.

"Yes, she's gone, Faleh. Now, look after yourself."

"Brother," Faleh replied, "talk to the lawyers and tell them it was not intended to be a murder."

Faleh told Jamil to ask the Iraqi consulate to intervene with the American government.

"Connect it to honor and dishonor and, I don't know, whatever," he said. "And an Iraqi is worth nothing without honor."

Jamil agreed, saying, "This is the base of the story. Newspapers wrote about this issue. It's happening now, and the Internet and whole world is writing about this subject."

Faleh continued to go over the honor-killing theme in phone calls with his wife.

"Listen," he told Seham, "have [friends] sit across from the [U.S.] consulate [in Iraq] and hold signs saying, 'The Iraqi honor is precious.' Signs saying that I'm not a criminal, [that] I didn't break into someone's house, [that] I didn't steal. You know what I mean? And for an Iraqi, honor is the most valuable thing."

Faleh went on with his riff: "No one hates his daughter, but honor is precious, and nothing is better than honor, and we are a tribal society that can't change. I didn't kill someone off the street. I tried to give her a chance, but no result."

Seham chided her husband at one point for having "rushed into it," presumably referring to his violent acts.

"Seham, don't blame me," Faleh protested. "Can you watch Amal's demeanor and do nothing? You can't. Amal brought it upon her."

"Amal brought it upon her," Seham repeated.

"Verily to Allah we belong, and verily to Him we shall return," Faleh told her.

"Trust in God, and pray to God," he said, "and don't rush and retain a mediocre lawyer."

The subject of legal representation came up in another recorded conversation.

Seham mentioned a lawyer who had "pulled a miracle" in an unspecified case.

"Is he Arab?" Faleh asked.

"No, not Arab," she replied. "He is a Jew."

Faleh paused.

"A Jew?" he said. "Check with Arabs as well. [But] if there is a loophole in this subject — you know, clans, tribalism, something like that — the Jews know of it. See if there is a loophole or something.

"We can say that you have...a psychological problem," Seham suggested. "You have to tell them, 'I am suffering because of the war.'"

Faleh agreed that this would be a good idea.

"Tell them I am tired and feel nervous. I am always suffering from this condition. Tell them I got sick in Iraq. OK?"

Another call between the couple revealed more.

"Noor is gone, Faleh," Seham said, crying as she spoke. "I lost my daughter. My daughter is gone."

"I told you," Faleh replied. "Your daughter was gone anyway."

"No, Faleh," his wife continued. "She's gone! My daughter is gone!"

"Noor is gone, and what about me?" Faleh responded.

"You are gone," his wife concluded.

Faleh has pleaded innocent of the charges against him. A trial date hasn't been set. He will remain locked up in the Maricopa County Jail until his case concludes.

The Almaleki family declined to speak with Phoenix New Times for this article. The family's comments all came from investigation records and posts on websites.

Neither would most of Noor's friends speak on the record, saying they feared her family might retaliate. Noor's boyfriend, Marwan, could not be reached for comment.

The blogosphere continues to resonate with opinions about "honor killings" and about what Faleh's legal strategy should be.

"There's no doubt about it," writes Pamela Geller of the anti-Muslim website atlasshrugs.com. "He ought to be executed."

Though that is the overwhelming sentiment, others have expressed a different point of view.

"Rest in peace, Noor," someone recently wrote on the young woman's memorial Facebook page.

"May Allah forgive her and forgive us for all our sins. And may Allah help her Dad!!!!"

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ColKlink
ColKlink

 Execute him, deport the lot. No refugee or asylum for Islam any more than the past century. Why change today?


D-port

D.k. Hess
D.k. Hess

How on earth can we as a society keep silent regarding "Honor killings." An Ideology that promotes death, rape and murder is in direct conflict to everything that is American. life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. As an American woman I would rather die than to live under the rule of Islam. Where are the organizations that promote equal rights for women, where is the out rage from my sisters.....where are you, why aren't you vocal, why aren't you lobbying?

blueshoes
blueshoes

Honor killing? NO its MURDER!!! Those people are NUTS.

photographique
photographique

If your tribe holds "honor" higher than the life of your daughter of the life of another, there is something seriously WRONG with your TRIBE/CULTURE/RELIGION!!!.

Maybe you should of hear another wise man's saying, love God with all your strength and love your neighbor as yourself. Then you wouldn't have run over your daughter and your neighbor.

amy
amy

How can anyone do this to their own daughter, regardless of culture? If this is cultural, it is a very messed up culture/society. What a waste! She was such a beautiful girl.

Carolyn
Carolyn

America is a Christian Nation. Documents written by our founding fathers for the governing of our nation were based on Biblical principles. By Christian standards Mr. Almaleki has not brought honor to himself by killing his daughter. Instead of showing the world his unconditional love toward his daughter he has shown her hate and condemnation and that his love for her was not real. What has he preserved? How does killing who God has created and who God loves because a person acts in a way that opposes your pride give you honor? Faleh Almaleki's actions are very offensive to any Christian or to anyone's sense of right and wrong. He has brought disgrace on himself in the eyes of most Americans. How does killing someone for killing someone else follow any Christian concept? I speak of the death penalty. If Mr. Almaleki wanted his daughter to be under Sharia Law he should have not left his country and exposed her to a different culture which operates under the love, forgiveness, and grace of Jesus Christ. Noor's actions,however, were against Christ's teachings.

ohsushi520
ohsushi520

This is extremely disturbing that someone is using religion and culture to justify their evil doing. He's already in hell.

Shannon Kelly
Shannon Kelly

What religion or culture that deserves even a shred of respect supports this kind of horrific, animalistic behavior? I'm sorry but this is just insane stuff. He not only murdered his poor daughter--this beautiful young light--but he nearly killed another woman as well. He shouldn't have been in this country in the first place, but if he, his wife, and his son can't abide by the laws, they should all be have been deported. As things stand, he should get the death penalty for what he did. Murdering anyone, especially one's own family member, is beyond the pale. Close the borders to animals like this. We have enough problems with native-born monsters as is. He can be a beast in his own country, which he was trying to pimp to get off scot free. At least that game didn't work.

Shocked
Shocked

As for immigrants getting welfare - even illegal immigrants get it. They get Medicaid and food stamps, I know, and maybe other types of welfare - WIC, Head Start, Section 8 Housing, God alone knows what all else.Some of them have never worked a minute here in this country, they've never paid a penny in taxes, yet they are entitled to free medical care, food stamps, and so forth because you and I are stupid enough to not vote out of office the legislators who won't start to dismantle this system.

No, you can't tear it down all at once, no I don't want the innocent children to suffer.

But we have got to start the ending of welfare. Our country is already bankrupt and it's only going to get worse as the Fed Reserve keeps those printing presses running, thereby inflating the "money" supply and thereby making each new piece of paper "money" worth less than the one before it.

Google Ron Paul.

Shocked
Shocked

It's a real shame that the dtr took up the rather typical young cheeky American ways, but she didn't, by American standards, deserve death.

Her father, sadly, failed to understand that he is living in American, not Iraq. Laws are different here. One must abide by the laws of his place of residence.

Terribly sad how women are treated in what I believe are old-fashioned, outdated cultures that view them as personless, brainless chattel.

Except that princesses, female offspring of the royals can do whatever they please, it would seem. No burqah or hijab or moral restrictions for them. What is up with that?

Bonasera
Bonasera

nevah disrespect the fahthah, never bring dishonor to the faahmily...

Bonasera: I believe in America. America has made my fortune. And I raised my daughter in the American fashion. I gave her freedom but I taught her never to dishonor her family. She found a "boy friend," not an Italian. She went to the movies with him. She stayed out late. I didn't protest. Two months ago he took her for a drive, blahblah blah(from the godfather)

this rebellious biatch had it coming to her. Rebellious biatch and fanatical father head to head, looks like the biatch lost. Well they both lost. This little troublemaker could've moved to another city but instead chose to stay in the same community and even tried to stay in the fathers house! Would it have killed her to tone it down a little? She knew her father was a crazy unstable fanatic. They may call it an honor killing but it's just another woman being abused by a man in her life, one of millions in America. And they keep going back for more. Cry me a river.

faye
faye

not only are these people "entitled" to welfare benefits, but think they can act this way on our streets. And his wife works,,works at a military base!!! Does anyone else see this as an issue? I feel so bad for these women, he should be a guest at the military base his wife works at and given CIA interrogation.

kathy
kathy

muslim religon is satan at his best

Riff randall
Riff randall

Islam appeals to the boorish savage nature of man. We've seen how these animals got riled up after the cartoonist portrayed Mohammed. Islam keeps people stupid and ignorant so they continue to blow themselves up to obtain virgins. Overall it is a cancer that eats away at humanity. And for this reason it must be eliminated.

kimberly
kimberly

This is a such a sad story! I can't believe a father would do such a thing just because a daughter wanted to live her own life! In the article the father mentions it's the iraqi way. That's crap! This behavior is unacceptable in America! If these people want to live the Iraqi way, then they need to stay in Iraq! I feel bad for all middle eastern women who have to live under the thumb of a man. What a load of crap!!!

Alexis
Alexis

Let me get this straight. An Iraqi woman, who moved to the states 10 years ago, and speaks [relatively] no English & is entitled to WELFARE??? I am a US citizen, work hard, pay my taxes and do NOT live off the government!

Let's add this up, I am paying to "rebuild" Iraq ANY paying welfare benefits to many Iraqis that have moved to the US. What about taking care of our “own.”

AND, for the father that killed his daughter, stick him in Guantanamo! Or ship him back to Iraq. As a taxpayer, I don't want my $$$ to fund his murder trial. At Guantanamo, he will be with some of his "Friends" so he should feel right at home.

ENOUGH SAID!!

BumbleBee
BumbleBee

Ok, I think this article did misrepresent Islam - but why are so many immigrants on welfare? That's the part that enrages me! I wish there were more stipulations for welfare, for Americans too. There needs to be more checking up on ppl who abuse the system and I don't think we should be giving it to immigrants.

A.K
A.K

I wish that this article was not written on such a biased point of view. The mentioning of Islam, and Muslim left and right and how this is part of the religion, and some of these extreme actions are a believed part of the religion is ridiculous. First of all educate yourself thoroughly on the religion prior to making such remarks. These "honor killings" and other actions of that sort are not part of the Muslim community nor part of the religion by any means. Women are not portrayed as puppets in the Quran but rather are said to be respected and are mentioned of how worthy a woman truly is. These people who go on rampages killing and one not in the name of their religion are not true Muslims. These people are parts of small sects that are created by mankind, and are not the words of God. The actions are also depending on the country of origin from the follower, so before grouping all Muslims into one category due more research and educate yourself so that you can make such extreme statements.

Danny
Danny

I really enjoy how you drag, Islam through the mud in this article. You pawn off you feelings, by getting quotes from other. "Muslim culture has reduced many, if not most, women to the position of puppets on a string, to slavelike creatures whose only purpose in life is to cater to the needs and pleasures of men."My wife is Muslim, and I have visited her family in Beirut, and not once did I feel like any one woman in the Muslim community was a slave like creature. The same can be said for prostitute, or strippers here in America.

As for this statement.In Islamic Middle Eastern countries, there's a name for the homicides of women by male family members: "honor killings."I did not know they spoke English as a primary language in Iraq, I am pretty sure it is Arabic. So how do you know what the direct translation for what they call it is. Where do have what they actually call it written in your article anywhere?

I understand what this man did was wrong and am I in no way agreeing with it. But what you are doing in this article is contributing to our a lack of understanding between to cultures.

Congratulations Mr. Rubin

Apitheous
Apitheous

If you don't want to be Americanized don't come to America

snoopy
snoopy

Noor sounds like so many muslim girls here. I really don't know what to say except, Noor was in a very bad place, she knew how her father was when it came to religion and tradition. She knew how her family worked having been born and raised into a very traditional if not fanatical muslim family. I think western values influence a lot of muslim youths that live here and their parents are scared of this because they feel that these american values take them away from their family values. They feel that westernized morals turn their children against them. Noor's father was not only a fanatic but he was mentally insane as well, his daughter was only trying to live her life normally and be independent. This is what most parents want for their children, I know mine do! But Noor was not just an average typical american, she was an iraqi born muslim and there was no escaping that, as she fatally found out.

My heart goes out to her friends and her siblings, it just makes you angry in that her life could've been saved if she only got the protection she needed. There must have been some way to protect her and other young muslim girls who are caught in the same situations. I can't begin to understand the "muslim" culture all I know is that reading about Noor, in my head flashed images of girls at my school who are exactly like her, right down to Noor's personality. I think if I had seen Noor at my school, I would have passed her by thinking to myself, "oh she's so pretty, popular, has tons of friends, oh her life must be so easy. Must be nice being her!" Rest in peace Noor, you don't have to live in fear anymore!

Clifford A Conley
Clifford A Conley

These people are sick. Look around the world, every country with a large muslim population are always into it some how with some stupid believe of islam. I know ther're brain washed, but with information so easily acessable you would think that the muslim slaves(weman)would get tired of this treatment. As for this so called father(owner)I wouldn't waste time with him but a bullit in his brain and dump him on the desert. He deserved to be treated like the animal he is. When a muslim female dies what is her role in heaven to serve a man there too. This gril knew she could still beleive in her God with out being a slave to her family, for her there're is a special place in his kingdom. God Bless.

Tom shaner
Tom shaner

This news story is aimed at depiucting the family unit and fathers as horrible monsters. It ios nothing but anti-male bigotry and hate propaganda. The story takes a line from the Bible about honoring Fathers as if respecting and loving your father is somehow a bad thing and insinuting the Bible is terrible too and attempts to demonize men and fathers with it. I am disgusted at your blantantly bigotry and hatred in this propaganda pice. I will not hate Muslim eitehr just because the government opromotes hatred of them to promote their useless unjust wars.

helda smith
helda smith

uqayyum, i'm sure you are looking forward to your after life. how many virgins do you plan on having. is it 72 or 19? 72 sounds way better to me, bro. can you pick what kind of virgins they are? I would go for 30% asian, 30% european, 30% american, and the other 10 percent -- hey, surprise me.

also can you pick their ages too? I think it would be cool to have a 35-year old virgin, just for kicks.

uqayyum
uqayyum

peterK. you act is if you have been personally wronged. have u lived in the East. probably not but if u had you would know there are good and bad people everywhere. So here when people kill their loved ones and it is not related to religion it is not so bad. One idiot kills his daughter and thinks he is doing it for religious reasons and it is terrible!. look the religion is not bad . It is the stupid people who think this is the way it should be. this is not the case, but the media and you are perpetuating this dumbness. i do not care if you like us or not. apparently in the afterlife all will be revealed. however in this life causing other people to hate us for reasons that have nothing to do with 99.99% should be tantamount to a hate crime

PeterK
PeterK

"99% of muslims do not do this. why do you continue to perpetuate this bs "

and if there are as alleged 1 billion Muslims in the world then according to you 1% of them are doing honor killings. Now 1 billion is1,000,000,000. and 1% of that number would be what????? far far more than the number of Catholic priests who are diddling teen-aged boys try about 10 million muslims so 1% is not an insignficant number

thus we should continue to put this on the front page of our papers

usman Qayyum
usman Qayyum

you are the biggest idiot in the world. you can not have read the quran and utter such nonsense. Do you even know how to read ? You are spreading stupid lies in the name of what? This is not fantasy. there are people who have never read the quran and you are spreading idiocy. the quran is as violent or non violent as any other religion. why don't you go join your idols glenn and rush. you are a straight forward bigot and racist and anyone who does not look like you is to be shunned and tarred and feathered, right. why don't you go live in the south where your kind are . or maybe you should go the south africa and live with the white supremacists

Taliesin319
Taliesin319

The Koran is something every American had better read and read fast..I've just completed my sixth reading with four different sets of commentaries and if one likes horror stories, trust me, the vignettes aka hadiths are enough to make the works of Lovecraft and King look like sunday school tracts by comparison. The " Religion of Peace " has not been hijacked. The Islamic jihadists are following it to the letter. Wait until you find out about "abrocation ". It enables certain readings to be viewed as never having been written. "Taquiya "- another dandy principle tells muslims they can cheat, steal, undermine a host country, in short do anything to their benefit as long as its not to a muslim. They can act in throughly reprehensible ways toward women and even God forbid to little girls in such a way that it makes you wish to vomit. Muslim men can do this because the perfect man, Mohammid, whom all should emulate did this. Start reading America ! Your life and America's, hell Western Civilization depends on it. Get informed and stop with the mantras of political correctness. Diversity divides- " E Pluribus Unum " unites all Americans. Diversity killed 13 brave people one of whom was pregnant with her first child and wounded many others at Fort Hood don't let them die in vain.

usman Qayyum
usman Qayyum

By the amount of time you all have kept this story on the front page of yahoo, you would think this is a bigger story than the priests abusing hundreds and possibly thousands of poor defenseless children. 99% of muslims do not do this. why do you continue to perpetuate this bs

ANTI-PROPAGANDA
ANTI-PROPAGANDA

ERS, what is YOUR COMMUNITY? None of about 60,000 of St. Louis immigrants or refugees committed so-called honor murder in 21 years ago and you are suggesting there is potential for more? How is relevant that some criminal murdered his daughter in 1989?

Ann Lee is right. As far as citizenship goes how is the pledge going to stop anything? When you get a driver's license all you have to do is pass set of rules. Same applies to the citizenship. No one can guess someone's character. This maniac was a murder and that's it. Problem is that the author of this text and the editor of RTF are engaging in anti-Muslim propaganda using one nutcase.I hereby publicly warn editors that they are allowing comments who call for genocide which is against US law. Why was this article REALLY published on 3 pages and with propaganda-style headline? Why now? Why not when murder happened?

Ann Lee
Ann Lee

The violence and killing of women and children has got to stop. In response to this article and the comments already made, I have a few things to note:1) I thought to become a citizen, one had to pledge to abide by the laws of that contry.2) When I checked dictionaries, honor means honesty, integrity, respect. 3) If God/Allah wanted women and children to be subservient puppets, he would not have given us intelligence, the ability to reason, and FREE WILL.4) This man may have called this a family and a tribe but it is nothing but a dictatorship.5) People throughout the ages have twisted sacred writings to give them an excuse for bigotry, hatred, violence, bullying, and dictatorships.6) We cannot use the actions of a few fanatics to justify genocide.

pat the bunny
pat the bunny

"Noor is gone what about me"? He should be executed, IMMEDIATELY! When does the right to honor a culture become greater than the right to live and breath?

ERS
ERS

Well, I, for one, am glad this subject is being written about, though I wish the author had done a little more research. In 2000, the U.N. estimated 5,000 "honor" killings per annum, though many of us who work with these crimes find that a very, very conservative figure.

To those who believe that this subject has nothing to do with your community, one of the first known dishonor killings that took place in the U.S. took place in St. Louis. You can read about it here:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/H...

Ellen R. Sheeley, Author"Reclaiming Honor in Jordan"

LETITIA
LETITIA

PEOPLE SHOULD NOT SPEAK ON SOMETHING THAT THEY DON'T HAVE A CLUE ABOUT OR BE JUDGE OR JURY. DON'T COME TO AMERICA IF YOU ARE NOT GOING TO LIVE BY THEIR LAWS THATS INSANE. DID THE US INVADE THE MUSLIM COUNTRIES TO GO AND SHOW THEM HOW TO LIVE THEIR WAY? YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO LIVE ANYWAY YOU WANT. YOU DON'T GIVE UP ON WHO YOU ARE BECAUSE YOU LIVE SOMEWHERE ELSE. YES THIS A TRADGEY PLENTY OF LIVES ARE RUINED AND PERHAPS HE DIDN'T OR COULDN'T SEE BEYOND HIS ANGER AND DIDN'T SEEK HELP TO WANT TO SCARE SOMEONE AND KILL YOUR FLESCH OF FLESCH IS A DEATH SENTENCE WITHIN SELF. AMERICAN VALUES ARE NOT THAT GREAT DRUNKINESS,ADULTRY,IDOLATRY,HOMESEXUALITY

A STL Guy
A STL Guy

I'm a little disturbed that Paul Rubin didn't try to expess the fact that "Muslim culture" that Riffat Hassan was mentioning did not have much to do with Quranic law which states clearly that those who live as guests in another country (like the Malekis) must obey the laws of that land. Honor killings are a tribal custom that date back thousands of years and continue to occur in many different cultures today. Obviously, the father is the guilty party here for breaking many laws, Muslim and American.

ANTI-PROPAGANDA
ANTI-PROPAGANDA

This is a serious issue. Again: murder is a murder!. This appaling act has nothing to do with islam but TRIBAL TRADITION in some parts of Iraq.

Bill, who are we and who are they? Ask native Americans if here in the West we view all as equal regardless of tribe, religion or gender.

When can we start to distinguish individuals from governments, countries etc.

Bill, also here is something for you: genocide happens in 8 stages. You've just engaged in its first stage:

1. CLASSIFICATION: All cultures have categories to distinguish people into “us and them” by ethnicity, race, religion, or nationality: German and Jew, Hutu and Tutsi. Bipolar societies that lack mixed categories, such as Rwanda and Burundi, are the most likely to have genocide. The main preventive measure at this early stage is to develop universalistic institutions that transcend ethnic or racial divisions, that actively promote tolerance and understanding, and that promote classifications that transcend the divisions. The Catholic church could have played this role in Rwanda, had it not been riven by the same ethnic cleavages as Rwandan society. Promotion of a common language in countries like Tanzania has also promoted transcendent national identity. This search for common ground is vital to early prevention of genocide.

Bill
Bill

Mohamed,

"Here is a man who has put his own life and livelihood at stake for the sake of culture and family values and everyone is taking turns at bashing him." What planet did you grow up on man? From the tone of your posts it is quite clear you, like the killer, view the females of the family as your own property. News flash here in the West we view all as equal regardless of tribe, religion or gender. At the end of the day culture or family values are distant second to the sanctity life!!! Why is it so hard for the followers of "the religion of peace" to figure this out? Could it possibly be that their religion places honor, adherence to Sharia, and simple piety above all? The answer is yes for the Islamic world and that my friend is problem your going to have within the west. We value life while you obviously value honor and Islamic values more--quite typical of the herd mentality endemic across the Islamic world. If you want to continue to try and defend that cannot be do us a favor and go to one of the many Islamic paradises across the globe and spare us your useless rhetoric. We value life above all else and it is obvious you don't.

Otto
Otto

I think ANTI-PROPOGANDA has a point. It is a tragic story, but why is it being reported now? It is a blatant ham-fisted attempt to fan the flames of anti-muslim sentiment in Saint Louis written by an author with a very semitic surname. The author might as well be named Goebbels.

ANTI-PROPAGANDA
ANTI-PROPAGANDA

First of all let us be intelligent persons and think about the article, the author, the way it was presented and the content. Let us ask ourselves following questions:1.Why is a murder that happened in October 2010 in Arizona on the front page in April 2010 issue of RFT in St. Louis?2.How is this hit-and-run homicide different than other more vicious murders?3.Why is there label “Muslim” in the headline?4.Were those “honor killings” common in ancient Babylon (Iraq) even in pre-islamic era?5.How is this case different from a case where CONTROLLING FATHER James Harrison shot and killed his 7-year old son and his four daughters because his wife left with another man?Was that not an honor MASS killing? It was even worse since he did not kill his wife who dishonored him but took it out on 5 other persons, young children.Yet this mass murder was not labeled neither “Christian” nor ”honor killing”

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/new...

6.What is the motivation of the writer for this story? To generate comments such these:• NotAnArab 04/01/2010 9:37:46 AMIslam is a cancerous mental disorder. The Americans and the Chinese need to team up to wipe Islam off the face of the earth. Step 1 - Drop a nuke on Mecca during the annual pilgrimage. How hilarious would that be?

RTF is allowing hate speech and call to genocide on its page. You are breaking US laws and US constitution.

7.Murder is a murder is a murder is a murder !!! Anyone who manipulates loss of innocent live to spread hatred and anyone who allows it to be published on 3 pages in Goebels propaganda style is just spreading religious and ethnic hatred and wants to turn our country into mindless dictatorship. Don’t you see what the real purpose of the article was?

Prasad Tata
Prasad Tata

It is such as a sad thing that an young life abruptly ended.. call it whatever... honor killing, dowry death, fatwa..., look at the other side of the story. It is problem of adjustment to the cultures. Family heads trying to adjust to the new cultures and trying to raise the family with set of values they believed all their life (no disrespect on American values) A father can never, ever hurt his children. Pay attention to the comments Noor in the first two pages... His fat ass, asshole does any child talk like this about his/her father? (honor and respect are not to be demanded they have to be earned). Fault is on both sides perhaps an illiterate father trying to adjust in a foreign country culture and rebillious daughter at the age of 18-20 thinks she knows much more than the elders who cared for her all their life. If she hated the father so much why didn't she move into a bigger and more secure city. I think she too is not that educated (perhaps may have some bqsic education by attending community college.. perhaps her parents are unable to afford better education). At the end a young beautiful girl life terminated untimely leaving grief for the entire neighborhood. I see this as a complex situation of poor communication among of family members and lack of understanding and difficulty in havfing a direct talk among themselves and lack of social support resulted in this tragedy.

You can chhose to be whatever you wanted but try not forget your roots, values and respect the tradition (does jews, irish, greek and germans forget their tradition?) but still adopt and mingle in your adopted homeland. If everyone understand this things would have been different.

The Dude
The Dude

Dear future immigrants of America,

Please check your backwards assed traditions in whatever country you are from. That crap is not welcome here at all. We do not practice Islamic law here and WE NEVER WILL!

If you want to live a repressive lifestyle, do not come here to this country. Stay where you are.

Signed,

Citizen of the United States of America

god given rights
god given rights

A response to Mohamed's comment at 04/01/2010 4:21:38 PM:

Neither culture nor society nor governments create, grant or give rights to anyone. Being born gives us rights; Allah gives us rights. The West (and substantial portions of the rest of the world, though I suppose they'll never be the boogeymen your kind finds necessary to thrive) doesn't give women rights; it recognizes and respects those rights. Whatever modifier people may attach to it - traditional, extremists, fundamentalist, radical - Islam as practiced in far too many places around the globe strips women of rights. The Islam you have described, or whatever cultural label you may confer, is nothing more or less than the detritus that will in future generations of every culture and religion be remembered as the leavings of cowardly swine.

Every word you utter does us, as immigrants, Arabs, and Muslims harm. You are to Islam what Westboro is to Christianity. You are destroying our religion.

MARY lou Koons
MARY lou Koons

WHEN SOMEONE FROM ANOTHER COUNTRY COMES OVER HERE TO LIVE. DON'T THEY REALIZE EVEN WOMEN HAVE A RIGHT TO FREEDOM, WHY COME OVER HERE. DO THEY TAKE THE TEST TO BECOME AMERICAN CITIZEN. ALL THEY WANT TO DO IS DESTROY ALL OF US . THAT SHOULD BE HONOREDWHEN THEY COME TO MY COUNTRY IF YOU DON'T WANT FREEDOM HERE IN AMERICA THEN GO HOME!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hester
Hester

Mohamed@ 4:21 said: "Just because the western world has a set of values which make it a crime to kill deviant people, it does not mean that it is the gold standard or the only right way to be in life."

It is if you CHOOSE to live in the West, sir, and that is where this crime took place!

Hester
Hester

Was the illustration at the top really necessary? It looks like something a tabloid would print and cheapens the content and insults the young woman whose life was taken. The article was deeply sad. A young life snuffed out because the father is trapped in that cultural baggage. Shame on the father, mother and cousin for their lies and excuses. Perhaps it is time that all those applying for immigration to the West with this kind of cultural baggage, be educated and warned that that this mentality will not be tolerated and must be discarded. We have our own serious problems dealing with violence against women without adding something else to the mix.

Mohamed
Mohamed

Most of the comments reflect an absolute lack of appreciation of culture and family ties. Somehow, the concept of family and togetherness seems completely alien to most of the commenters. The problem is the biased media which only makes noises when women are killed and never when men are killed for similarly shaming the family. Here is a man who has put his own life and livelihood at stake for the sake of culture and family values and everyone is taking turns at bashing him. Just because the western world has no respect for family and elders and their values and it is the norm to do what they please despite the displeasure of their parents, it does not make it right to abuse and insult parents on any day. Just because the western world has a set of values which make it a crime to kill deviant people, it does not mean that it is the gold standard or the only right way to be in life. In the muslim world, the father does everything to provide for his family and in turn expects respect...which this girl clearly had none of. In the muslim world, parents are almost equivalent to god(they are the closest thing to god on any given day) and disrespecting a parent, espescially one who expects the person to live in a decent manner is equivalent to insulting god. Ultimately, people should face the consequences of their actions...but then, the western world and its bullshit feminism only know of one way of life....to screw men all the time and pamper women all the time.

ColKlink
ColKlink

@D.k. Hess This has been for centuries. We do not need their culture in the west.. today more than ever.

 
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