Ask a Mexican: Are Spaniards white?

Dear Mexican: I'm a white girl dating a Mexican from Jalisco that works for my dad. There lies the problem. Dad absolutely dislikes him and totally opposes me dating Ignacio and has been almost rude to him, which I don't like.

Some details now: I often visit Dad at his office and in one of those I met Ignacio, deepest dark eyes that I've ever seen...we flirted a little, exchanged phone numbers and that was for that day. Me and the guy hit off almost from the beginning, so I feel it was totally natural to start dating him, even if he lives in a not-so-nice place and we have different backgrounds. Of course, Dad gave me a whole speech that night at home, that I should not be talking to people I don't know, that what I was thinking, etc. And when we started dating a few days later, he got mad, refused to drive me to the mall and so on.

 A few days later, we dated again, and we kissed and started our relationship, and my father started to behave like a drama queen, saying he was disappointed, that he thought he raised a good, decent girl and such things. I had no option but call him a racist and sore loser, which I'm sorry now to have said. Dad lectures me about me not worrying "about my future" and that I'm "losing it over a beaner," makes a scene many times when I'm going out with Ignacio and calls my cell phone often to "check out what I'm doing." He justifies his behavior because I'm his only daughter and says he wants the "best for me" (read: date a white guy). The fact is that I like my boyfriend a lot and don't see why I need to break up with him just to please my father. It gets complicated because Ignacio says one day he's gonna lose patience and answer back my Dad, or worse. What can I do to handle Dad's dramas? And to have him accept my relationship with Ignacio?
Una Confused Gringa

Dear Gabacha: So Nacho is good enough to work for your papi, but not good enough for his daughter? Typical gabacho exploiter...I would flaunt the relationship in front of your dad. Change your name to Xochitl. Blast mariachi in your home. Make your tortillas by hand — better yet, start eating nopales. Totally freak out your dad! But at the same time, be a responsible chica — you didn't specify your age, but given your reference to getting driven to the mall and still living at home, I'll assume you're in high school. So stay away from sex — but if you do, make sure to use birth control, because Mexican sperm is potent. Keep up your grades. Show Dad that your life won't worsen if a Mexi is your man, and that he's pendejo for even thinking about it. And remind him that frowning on interracial relationships is so Jim Crow era, and to get with the programa.

Dear Mexican: Why do you frijoleros (being myself of Iberian descent, if you can use gabacho you've gotta let me use this) assume that white people don't speak Spanish? You would not believe the crap I hear almost every day! We spoke Spanish when the Mexica were still ripping out the hearts of their neighbors.
El Cid Soy

Dear Gachupín: A Spaniard who thinks he's white? HA! You gachupines are as gabacho as Mexicans are infertile.

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prettycool667
prettycool667

What is wrong with people to use these stupid terms? Yes Mexicans speak Spanish but we are not Spaniards! We share their ethnicity but we have our own culture and identity! We are two races nothing wrong with that. Not all Mexicans are mestizos some are pure Natives. Spain doesn't have Native Americans and Mexico has the most in the whole Americas. I am a light skinned Mexican and often told I don't "look Mexican" it's because I look Spanish but I never ever say I am a Spaniard. I am not ashamed of my culture or upset to be a Mestizo. Stop being stupid not all Mexicans are thugs or gangsters! I have met some very educated Mexicans from Mexico!

hfii
hfii

In the twenty-first century is possible read questions like that. Do one thing, watch a mapa, search spain y booom!! surprise. We are in Europe. Sorry for my english.

valdez.s.mccd
valdez.s.mccd

My father family can't stand mexicans.they say mexicans are wannabe spaniards but spaniards are white. My father made a point to us to stay the hell away from mexicans. His family came from France, Spain, and Germany and a great relative

that came from scandavia. His

family is racists.

Saniblasts69
Saniblasts69

who cares where all the same race were all human and depend on on another to live in this dysfunctional corrupt world if another girl is attracted to another guy who cares its the most natural instincts and feelings a human has to offer but Wat Ur dad is trying to say wen he told u he thought he raised a decent girl means that he is confused and only does wat his controlled instincts tell him to do for it is not totally his fault he thinks like that he has a right to give his opinion on the life of his offspring's even if it means offending u and Ur partner.u should test this partner ur dating n c if there is a real connection of love fulfillment and it isn't just physical ism materialism lust and pleasure and feeding of grounds and mistaking it for love....especially cause u two come from to different backgrounds and each others thoughts feelings and the way of seeing things r different and could collide with each others perceptive of life so no physical touch of any sort until u find out it is a legitimate connection of love and not just ur partners ego or uncontrolled urges of sexism physical ism materialism lust and pleasure cause people will often act on love depriving themselves from the main source and act as hypocrites to get wat they desire..period.

Nancy
Nancy

Let It Go... God Says Women && Men .... He Never Says Whites W/Whites, Blacks W/Blacks, Mexicans W/Mexicans Etc Etc Etc Lol ...

prettycool667
prettycool667

@valdez.s.mccd Pass I don't want to beĀ  a Spaniard. I can't stand their accents! ugh! Some Spaniards are incredibly racist and have a superiority complex but that is their problem not mine! Proud Mexican right here!

 
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