As friends and relatives descend upon the Verma household, Lalit attempts to control the uncontrollable: his wife's smoking, his son's disinterest in school, the escalating cost of the wedding, the intense heat, threatening rains and wilting marigolds (the Indian wedding flower) that are part and parcel of the humid monsoon season.
Fortunately, Lalit is blissfully ignorant of his soon-to-be-married daughter's dilemma. Attractive, educated and seemingly modern, Aditi has, like all dutiful Hindu daughters, agreed to marry a man her parents have chosen for her. Part of the reason is time-honored tradition -- Lalit and Aditi's mother, Pimmi (Lillete Dubey), were so betrothed -- but there's another motive: Aditi realizes her love affair with a married TV talk-show host has no future.
Monsoon Wedding pulsates with music, dance, vibrant colors and laughter. But it also glows with quiet moments of drama. The most moving of these involves a character so broadly drawn and so egregiously overplayed during the film's first half that he nearly derails the entire picture. The character is Dubey (Vijay Raaz), the catering manager, who is introduced as a disingenuous and obsequious figure of comic relief; he's so stereotypically written it's offensive. What seems like a terrible misstep on Nair's part finally makes sense when the character undergoes a totally unexpected transformation. Raaz brings an almost heartbreaking guilelessness to these later scenes, which gives the film its one true grace note. Tilotama Shome does a lovely job in her screen debut as the Vermas' maid, Alice, the catalyst for Dubey's about-face.
Although Nair may never again realize the brilliance and power of her 1988 debut film, Salaam Bombay!, an almost neorealist study of Bombay street children, her aims in Monsoon Wedding are quite different. She wants solely to highlight a family much like the one in which she grew up and, through that, to celebrate the humor and drama, love and conflict that defines family life everywhere. In that, she has succeeded.