Dear Willie D:
There seems to be a new phenomenon going on in America where young adults are smoking weed with their mother, father or both. What is this world coming to? I know several people who get high with their parents. My friend smokes weed with her dad. Although she's a 22-year old woman, I find that wrong on so many levels. When I questioned her about it she justified her actions by saying, Wiz Khalifa smokes weed with his mother. Really? I ragged on her for being a follower.
Like rockers, rappers are entertainers and most of them are just portraying an image to make money. She says her dad is her best friend and she can talk to him about anything. Still, in my opinion something has to be amiss with a man who thinks it's okay to smoke weed with his daughter.
Don't you think if he's going to get high, there should be some sort of discretion on his behalf?
Many of today's parents don't have any gumption as to what they say and do in the presence of their kids because they want to be their children's friend not parent, or they just don't care. Your friend's justification of her actions because Wiz Khalifa smokes weed with his mother tells me she doesn't think with her own brain. If Wiz Khalifa put a gun to his head and squeezed the trigger would she do that too?
Oftentimes, when people can't reasonably justify their actions they deflect accountability and blame others. I know parents who smoke weed and some have children who smoke weed but they don't do it together. Maybe I'm old-fashioned but to me, getting high with your parents is like standing up in church while the pastor is delivering his sermon and screaming out, "Dingaling!" Some things you just don't do.
BLINDSIDED: MY BOYFRIEND WANTS AN OPEN RELATIONSHIP
Dear Willie D:
My boyfriend came to me and said he wants us to date other people but continue to live together as boyfriend and girlfriend. The backstory to this ridiculous request is that we have had a threesome on several occasions with other girls and guys; I'm bisexual, he's straight. When we had sex with other people I never considered it cheating because both of us was in agreement and present during the act.
As weird as it sounds, I consider us to be in a monogamous relationship. Him coming to me with this revelation makes me think he doesn't share my sentiments. What am I missing here? Has he moved on?
Invariably, whenever you share your bed with multiple lovers, you open yourself up to a plethora of vulnerabilities. Apparently having sex with other women with his woman's permission wasn't satisfying enough for your dude, so he's decided to take his talents to the next level. He wants to do whatever and whomever he wants without question or regard for your feelings. So at the risk of sounding slow in the head, I will say he's moved on.
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