St. Louis Is a Terrible Place to Find Love, Study Finds

St. Louis is one of the worst large metros in a study surveying 55 of them

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click to enlarge See this happy couple? They probably didn't meet in St. Louis because this is a terrible town to find love, study shows.
See this happy couple? They probably didn't meet in St. Louis because this is a terrible town to find love, demographic study shows.

If you're looking for love here, look somewhere else. A study by real estate website ranked 55 large metro areas from best to worst places to fall in love. St. Louis ranked 45th. The good news? Kansas City ranked 55th — dead last. At least we're doing better than our western neighbor.

The study also ranked midsize and small metros, for a total of 250 cities, out of which St. Louis was ranked 169th. The study also ranked all the states; Missouri was 42nd.

While no single person in St. Louis would disagree with the study, it's worth looking at how — hitherto unidentified as a source for accurate information about our love lives — determined that St. Louis is a terrible place to be single and ready to mingle.

The site mostly looked at population demographics, determining what percentage of people were single and not living with a partner. Utah has the lowest percentage of single adults in the United States. Southern states — and this may be surprising —- have the highest percentage. Roughly 40 percent of Mississippi and Louisiana's populations are single.

The study also looked at gender demographics. (This was a very heteronormative study.) The Northeast and Southeast have more women, while the Mountain West and Upper Plains have more men, resulting in smaller dating pools depending on what you're looking for. also looked at how much there was to do in any city so the singletons could go out and meet others and go on dates. Finally, the study looked at divorce rates in each area.

St. Louis, it turns out, doesn't have enough single men. Across the U.S., the male share of the adult single population is 44.8 percent, but in St. Louis it is only 43.2 percent. Plus, there were only 25.7 food and entertainment businesses per 10,000 people. And finally, our divorce rate is 12.5 percent, slightly higher than the 11.1 percent national average.

Overall, though, St. Louis has a sizable singles population: 34.2 percent of adults, compared to a national average of 33.2 percent.

Here are top options to move to if you're single and tired of the St. Louis dating scene:
  1. Boston-Cambridge-Newton, Massachusetts
  2. Seattle-Tacoma-Bellevue, Washington
  3. Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania
  4. Hartford-East Harford-Middletown, Connecticut
  5. Denver-Aurora-Lakewood, Colorado
  6. New Orleans-Metairie, Louisiana
  7. Milwaukee-Waukesha, Wisconsin
  8. Rochester, New York
  9. New York-Newark-Jersey City
  10. Buffalo-Cheektowaga, New York
  11. Urban Honolulu, Hawaii
  12. San Diego-Chula Vista-Carlsbad, California
  13. San Francisco-Oakland-Berkeley, California
  14. Los Angeles-Long Beach-Anaheim, California
  15. San Jose-Sunnyvale-Santa Clara, California
Strangely, the study's two top states for finding love are North and South Dakota, which do not have any cities on the above list.

... So maybe you just want to stay single. Who wants to move to North Dakota? And with more than 34 percent of St. Louis adults in the same boat, the metro area should be positively packed with fun people to hang out with.

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About The Author

Rosalind Early

Rosalind is the editor-in-chief of the Riverfront Times. She formerly worked for Washington University's alumni magazine and St. Louis Magazine. In 2018, she was selected as a Rising Leader of Color by the Theatre Communications Group. In 2014, she was selected as an Emerging Leader by FOCUS St. Louis. Her work...
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