Fame isn’t all it’s cracked up to be, and breakout star of Aussie Shore, Lily Jade learned that the hard way. She says that her stardom has made dating— already not the easiest social task— even more difficult. So difficult, in fact, that she says she’s done trying to make committed romantic relationships work.
“Men are too insecure to date me after seeing me have sex on TV,” she said. “Guys say, ‘Oh, you’ve had sex on camera – isn’t it gross knowing people can see you?’ But I’m literally doing what everyone else does in their normal life…just not in a bedroom with the door closed. I don’t understand what the issue is.”
Lily is grateful that her time in reality TV helped her quickly launch her OnlyFans career into high gear, but says that the public recognition does come with a few pitfalls.
“Before the show, I had no issues going on dates and meeting people,” Lily said. “Being on TV is a blessing, but a curse. Yes, it gets you where you need to be, gives you opportunities, and you make money from it, but it’s literally the biggest curse ever, because you sacrifice your normal life.”
Some join OnlyFans for financial independence, but Lily needed a way to reclaim her own story after unending bullying and being labelled a ‘slut’ by the online media. Enter OnlyFans.
“I obviously know it’s not normal and that TV is a whole different world. But having sex on camera has become normal for me. I don’t see the difference,” she said. “I got shamed for doing something everyone does. So I thought, fine, if people are going to sexualise me anyway, I might as well do it on my own terms.”
Lily’s absolutely gorgeous, and says that men are asking her out all the time, but once they see her in public? They’re too insecure to hang.
“I just find them insecure, because a real man wouldn’t actually care. There’s so many men out there who date OnlyFans girls and porn stars, and there’s no issue,” she said. “My life isn’t going to change, unfortunately. That show’s out forever. So they’re just gonna have to deal with it, or they’re gonna have to leave. That’s what I say to people.”
Making genuine connections has been next to impossible for Lily, courtesy of the reputation that precedes here wherever she goes.
“People think they know me from TV, but that’s just one version of me. It’s almost a form of acting. Of course I act crazy when there’s a camera on me – that’s what makes good TV. In real life, I’m not like that,” she said. “When people see me out, I can’t even explain or prove who I am as a person, because they already have an idea of me in their head,” she said.
Since Aussie Shore, Lily has come to see much more value in casual relationships than before.
“I love casual relationships. I literally get to have sex, but I also have freedom at the same time,” she said. “I’ll be honest, I feel like I’m too busy for a relationship anyway. It might be a bit selfish but I like having someone there, but knowing I can still do my own thing”.
Lily’s become known for her open and unapologetic approach to her dating life, and freely admits that she keeps a roster.
“If I’m seeing four guys or under, it’s easy to manage. I always make sure they’re not friends. I make sure they’re completely separate from each other. It seems to work, but yeah, I usually do like having a roster in summertime,” she said.
“Usually for me, a roster is like, three, four people. I know some of my friends, they have over six or seven. They’re more of an everyday type of person. In comparison, I’m pretty lazy,” she shared.
Being a successful content creator on OnlyFans is a full-time job, and Lily doesn’t have time to tiptoe around feelings when it comes to setting the ground rules for dating her.
“If you want to have a successful casual relationship, you need to be clear with your expectations. If they haven’t said anything to indicate that you’re the only one, then take it at face value,” she said.
“I used to make it up in my head and be like, ‘Oh my God. They had sex with me. They only want me.’ But that’s not real life, unfortunately. If it was a perfect world, everyone would be in a relationship right now, but it’s not.”
Lily even confessed that the man she’s currently seeing was even “freaking out” about things getting too serious.
“I never said I was looking for a relationship. I figure if it turns into a relationship, that’s what happens, but I’m not going to sit here and stomp and say I want one,” she said. “Now, we have regular conversations and if one of us is feeling a certain way or a bit off, we’re going to check in and just ask, ‘hey, how are you feeling now, do you have more feelings?’ things like that.”
One of the most refreshing things about Lily’s relationship rules? She’s incredibly blunt about boundaries.
“For me, a relationship involves friends and family. When you’re in a relationship, you get invited to all the birthdays or events and stuff. Like, no, that’s not happening if we’re casual,” she explained.
“Just come over late at night, and then leave after, like, get out of my house. Or if you want to stay over, you just gotta leave in the morning. Most of the time I’ll go to their house. I don’t stay longer than 24 hours. That’s when it gets dangerous,” she said.
Lily Jade has the lockdown on how to manage casual relationships that work best with her life and career. Will she be open to something more committed? Someday. But for now, she’s going to enjoy the moment she’s in, and keep it casual until she meets someone who can handle the heat.
